Monday, February 22, 2010

Mondays in Honduras

Marriage is marvelous where ever you are on whatever day it happens to be. As you know, my goal for writing my notes on Mondays is to recognize marriage and lift it up. My husband and I, along with Jacob and our pets happen to be completing six days in our new home … well, at least our new adopted country of Honduras … and at least our temporary home on the campus of Casa de Esperanza.

How did it come to this? Why am I here, trying to find us a house to rent, trying to communicate with folks in a language that is not my own, trying to make sure my family has all they need without offending anyone in this new culture? Why do I have to adjust to a place that is alien to all that I know and hold dear? Why did I have to leave my family, my church and my friends and come to this land?

Well, first of all, it was my choice to follow. It is my choice to be a part of this dream of my husband’s – I made it our dream. Secondly, it is nothing new for wives to accompany their men, to help fulfill dreams of their beloved. From the time Sarah followed Abraham, to Peter’s wife following him to establish new churches, to the earliest settlers throughout the Americas … but also new frontiers in whatever country throughout the world, women have followed their men. History is filled with story after story. The tales continue as it is still happening everyday all over the world – whether it be the military, or careers, or the quest of some new and better horizon, people pack up their families and move to new lands. Generally, but not always, it is the men who take this new appointment and the women who follow to create a brand-new place for their family to feel at home.

With all that said, I realize I am not unique, and I am not special in any way.
What Lowell, Jacob and I are doing here is not some radical event that has never been attempted before. However, it is my story and I will decide how it is written. Since I am here now, and because I have chosen to be a part of this new undertaking of our family I can also choose to enjoy it. Every single moment of this new life I will consciously make a decision to adapt, to love, to learn, to grow and to serve to the best of my ability. I can and will decide to have fun! I will live in a joyous fashion despite the difficulties that are sure to arise, despite the exhaustion that living cross-culturally entails, despite the mistakes that are sure to occur.

You know, you are writing your marriage story too. No matter where you live, whether it is a Monday or Thursday you decide to submit in a humble fashion, or not. You decide to put a smile on your face or grumble. You decide to be a part of solutions in life or participate in turmoil. I pray you will conquer your own unique battles in a victorious manner.

As for me, right now, I understand how I came to be here – I said yes when the opportunity presented itself … and through plans, prayers, and cooperation of many it came about. I am happy to be searching for a house, difficult as it may be. I am learning my relatively new language as I go – with a multitude of eager teachers. I am adapting to new ways of doing things and deciding they are pretty cool and make sense. Sure, I am missing my family and friends, but that is surely a part of life on earth and in the meantime I am thankful for the Internet and cell phones available!

So Monday in Honduras, being married to this man is pretty OKAY. I hope your life is going good too – if not, then tear up the old script and write your story in a victorious, happy way. It’s your choice – you can do it.

Monday, February 8, 2010

For the Nexr Few Days - continued ...

I mentioned in an earlier writing that I will be concentrating on our new blog – Heart Notes From Honduras. Today I just wanted to do a wee bit of catch-up on here first. My husband, Lowell and I, along with our son, Jake, are moving to Honduras in 9 days. My time is filled with so many emotions but so is Lowell’s. I think we are doing a pretty good job at keeping each other balanced. I thank God for that. 
My usual theme for Mondays is ‘Marriage is Marvelous on a Monday’. Since a person’s relationship with their spouse is #1 after God then it needs to be dealt with or acknowledged as such on a pretty regular basis. 
The first and primary consideration in a marriage is: are you still best friends? Are you working on maintaining open communication so that you are on the ’same page’ in life? Do your dreams for the future coincide in a way that will be fulfilling for both of you? Are you loving your days together and working towards the same goals? 
The ‘why’ for this is so important. You have to stay tight in these ways so that when the storms come (as they surely will), when the way gets rocky and the footing on life’s path is unsure (which is a part of each life’s journey), when the circumstances you’re in the midst of are just crowding you in such a way as to be overwhelming and suffocating (inevitable) WELL THEN, you have to be there for one another – to be the anchor for the other, to lend a hand, to clear the way for one another. Usually one will do this now and the other will the next time … we balance, complement, and take care of each other IF we are walking side by side. 
This healthy co-existence takes time and work to be all that it’s supposed to be. It means respecting one another and acknowledging the gifts that are unique to him and her. It means you know and like each other. It means you can survive because you know you are not alone. 
Yes, with this move so imminent, emotions are running high. Unfortunately, one of the biggest reasons behind these negative feelings is once again a ‘worldly’ one. You see, there is still all this STUFF. All this stuff that I have already weeded through and decided months ago that it was worth keeping is now not so important after all. I know I already wrote Owned by Stuff and Owned by Stuff, Part 2 which should really help you realize that Stuff is hard to deal with. I am so tired of stuff and this is what I will address on the other blog – come join us at Heart Notes From Honduras where I will be discussing STUFF.  
This Road to Abundance is hopefully a wake up call. Realize that there is so much true wealth and beauty along the way. Let me remind you, Abundant Living is more than all your accumulations. All that amounts to is a pile of stuff that has to be dealt with either here in life … with you doing the dealing OR after you’re dead and gone and it is left for loved ones or even, God forbid, strangers to deal with.